Yes, it's another unflattering picture, but it's real and it has significance...two things I love. I have become an early riser. I love the quiet as I sip my coffee, daydream and organize my thoughts. The hour to myself before the kids wake is such therapy! Lately, my early morning thoughts have gone toward my emotional progess. I am very much a person who fixes. There was a time I struggled ...with a saviour mentality. Hard times? World poverty? Second cousin twice removed had surgery? Emilie to the rescue! My thoughts and behaviours, trying to be everything to everyone, running ragged to solve problems as big as maternal death in the Phillipines and as small as a friend's rocky marriage left me exhausted mentally and physically. Burnout after burnout left me in shambles. So I stopped. I am able to recognize my level of energy reserves. I am able to recognize my abilities in a realistic way.
I have the desire to take care of everything and everyone, but I now have the sense to say no and feel okay with it. Saying no to some responsibilities has given me the ability to do well in others. For the New Year, choose one task that is suited to you and do it well. If you hate cooking and crowds make you anxious, don't volunteer in a soup kitchen. Let that be another's blessing. Perhaps you'd be better suited to helping the soup kitchen by doing administrative work or cleaning the hall after events. Don't fight who you are. We've all been made differently not to compete, but to compliment each other.
The holidays have come and gone, and I admit I am imperfect. Every year I swear that this will be the year I have it all together, house clean, children scrubbed and smiling, myself scrubbed and smiling (!), gifts wrapped, yummies baked, and decorations strung throughout the house and yard. Every year, and again this year, it was not to be. The house got cleaned, and the yummies were baked, but the smile was a tad forced. Although I love the hustle and bustle of the Christmas season, I am not immune to the stress that comes along with it.
On top of all this, I developed an abscessed gum, which traveled from one side of my mouth to the other. How it managed this, I'm unsure, but there it is. I successfully treated the first abscess with Drastix tincture (topically and internally), but am still working on the second one which seems more severe.
All this to say, stress got the better of me.
In an effort to soothe my frazzled nerves, and also deal with the abscess, I sought herbs that are both calming, antibacterial, and anti-inflammatory. I had made Peace Tea before, and felt that it fit the bill perfectly. The chamomile is a gentle herb that is best known for it's calming effect. It's also wonderful for stomach complaints, which often accompany anxiety. What some don't realize is that chamomile is also wonderfully antibacterial, antiviral, and an excellent anti-inflammatory. Lavender has many of the same properties, and is an even stronger calming herb. Last, but certainly not least, comes the lemon balm. With its pleasant minty, lemony flavour, it contributes greatly to the taste of the tea. It is a calming herb, too, and strongly antibacterial and antiviral. It should not be used by those with a hyperactive thyroid, however. In this case, peppermint is a nice substitute!
Give it a try, and let me know what you think!
2 parts chamomile flowers
1 part lavender buds
2 parts lemon balm (or peppermint)
Blend the herbs. Use a spoonful in a cup of just boiled water. If drinking for pleasure, steep covered for 2-3 minutes. Any longer will result in a bitter tea. For a therapeutic tea, steep covered for 10 minutes. Sweeten with honey as desired.